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Veritas · 05-13-2008 09:42 PM

Seabird's "I'm giving up thread" got me thinking.

Divorce, death, getting fired and many other things can be the trigger. Getting mad and turning one's back on God cements it into place. I know. I've been there.

December of '93. Married for 9 months very happy -the world was our oyster. Then I get the call; my Mom came home from the store to find my Dad dead. The fact that it came out of the blue is what made it so bad. He and everyone else thought he was in good health. He was also the youngest death in my family since before I was born. This forced me to look at my own mortality in a whole new way. For just about all of '94 I was a SOB. I was mad at the whole world and at God (how dare He take my Dad away!). When I would see people laughing I would snear at them thinking "If I can't be happy then why the hell should they?" The best description of who I was would be Mr. Wick from the Drew Carrey Show. That my wife was at my side the whole time proves that there is a God and my wife is a living saint. Thanksgiving '94 was the turning point. There was a lot of family there and I was too tired to snap back at them. By the end of that weekend life started to look good again. Going back to Church scared me at first but became the best help of all.

If you're now stuck in the rut you only have three rules to live by:

1)Stay sane. Don't close in on yourself.

2)Keep family close -even if it hurts (see #1)

3)Don't burn bridges.

I was able to handle 1 & 2. Number 3 was bad, a couple of my best friends are not anymore

Remember that, in time, you'll get through this. If a dumbass like me can then so can you.

Enough of me. How about you?

2.FOH. · 05-13-2008 09:52 PM

I act as immature as possible without behaving like a -complete- tool.

That seems to help.

zukiphile · 05-13-2008 10:02 PM

Veritas wrote:
The best description of who I was would be Mr. Wick from the Drew Carrey Show.

Outstanding

That's me on a good day. On a bad day I am a cross between Churga from No Country for Old Men and Kevin Spacey in Seven.

MC Escher · 05-13-2008 10:10 PM

I had mine at the age of 27, which means... Oh Shi.... <thunk>

Veritas · 05-13-2008 10:18 PM

MC Escher wrote:
I had mine at the age of 27, which means... Oh Shi.... <thunk>

I was 30...

Veritas · 05-13-2008 10:24 PM

zukiphile wrote:
Veritas wrote:
The best description of who I was would be Mr. Wick from the Drew Carrey Show.
Outstanding

That's me on a good day. On a bad day I am a cross between Churga from No Country for Old Men and Kevin Spacey in Seven.

Did you ever think of asking for the hatchet man's job "I'm sorry, but you're fired"? Thought about it a lot. Didn't ask.

zukiphile · 05-13-2008 10:27 PM

Veritas wrote:
Did you ever think of asking for the hatchet man's job "I'm sorry, but you're fired"? Thought about it a lot. Didn't ask.

They asked me. I could not repress that talent.

Biker Dude · 05-13-2008 11:43 PM

2.DOH wrote:
I act as immature as possible without behaving like a -complete- tool.

That seems to help.

I don't bother trying not to be an asshole.

Vagrant · 05-14-2008 12:01 AM

Biker Dude wrote:
2.DOH wrote:
I act as immature as possible without behaving like a -complete- tool.

That seems to help.
I don't bother trying not to be an asshole.

It shows

maxor · 05-14-2008 12:13 AM

What is this "mid life" you speak of?

glfredrick · 05-14-2008 12:55 AM

Most of you guys are too young to even grasp the concept of a true mid-life crisis. That typically comes around after age 40, and as typically the onset is the first morning you wake up without the "man problem." Your world comes crashing down around you. You look for drugs, porn, an affair, a new Corvette, a bass boat, a vacation, a new (or old) house, etc., etc., etc.

Then one day you just come to grips with the fact that you are getting old and it sucks -- and life goes on. That, and once you need bi-focals even porn isn't as much fun anymore... (hypothetically speaking).

I'd say that a lot of you are just getting out of your adolescent stage and entering true adulthood for the first time. That soft of sucks too, but not half as much as a true mid-life crisis.

Biker Dude · 05-14-2008 01:22 AM

Vagrant wrote:
Biker Dude wrote:
I don't bother trying not to be an asshole.
It shows

Thank GOD! I thought I was hiding it to well.

Raoul Duke · 05-14-2008 01:46 AM

glfredrick wrote:
I'd say that a lot of you are just getting out of your adolescent stage and entering true adulthood for the first time. That soft of sucks too, but not half as much as a true mid-life crisis.

This is true yet I just turned 40. I feel good about that.

Veritas · 05-14-2008 01:58 AM

glfredrick wrote:
Most of you guys are too young to even grasp the concept of a true mid-life crisis. That typically comes around after age 40, and as typically the onset is the first morning you wake up without the "man problem." Your world comes crashing down around you. You look for drugs, porn, an affair, a new Corvette, a bass boat, a vacation, a new (or old) house, etc., etc., etc.

Then one day you just come to grips with the fact that you are getting old and it sucks -- and life goes on. That, and once you need bi-focals even porn isn't as much fun anymore... (hypothetically speaking).

I'd say that a lot of you are just getting out of your adolescent stage and entering true adulthood for the first time. That soft of sucks too, but not half as much as a true mid-life crisis.

Oh for crying out loud!!! If you don't get morning wood from Mr. Happy get up and do something good all day long. Cut the grass at your church, trim the hedges. Work your ass off. Come home and take a shower. Look at your wife. An hour later you will need another shower (I'm 44)

You look for drugs, porn, an affair, a new Corvette, a bass boat, a vacation, a new (or old) house, etc., etc., etc.

The $ vs. Euro has put the Vacation back another year
Europe. Half the time at the Vatican

Veritas · 05-14-2008 02:26 AM

maxor wrote:
What is this "mid life" you speak of?

Be happy in your youth.

When it does hit be happy that you're a long drive from Vegas. Two hours into the drive you'll say "Oh F___ it to hell!" turn around and come home. Your 401k will thank you.

I wonder how many Vegas human resources folks pay more for older guys who're over the hump...

Crash6 · 05-14-2008 03:45 AM

I have always understood a midlife crisis to be something more along the lines of what GLF was talking about. I haven't reached that point yet, nor will I any time soon.

I have had the confronting mortality thing though, and it really does change your perspective on things. Granted, at the time I had no wife and child, so confronting the prospect again presents a new type of fear. Not something I hope to experience.

Getting old must be something different all together. To inevitably lose a fight with time just seems like a truly depressing realization to make. I can't appreciate that now, and I have no idea how I'll react when I get there.

If nothing else, there will be irrational expenditures on something automotive. I'll probably start attending amateur rock shows again, and I'll probably smoke some weed. Those are the only honest predictions I can make.

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2.FOH. · 05-14-2008 12:39 PM

Biker Dude wrote:
Vagrant wrote:
Biker Dude wrote:
I don't bother trying not to be an asshole.
It shows
Thank GOD! I thought I was hiding it to well.

You might just as well thank Santa.

AC · 05-14-2008 12:39 PM

Short of some major trauma, I think in order to experience a mid-life crisis (serious word, that) you'd need to have some pretty unfulfilling aspects of your life at that particular point in time.

Most of the things that seem to trigger this stuff can be headed off by living a better life when you're younger. Since most of the angst seems to come from the realization of the things you've lost and can't get back due to aging, taking better care of yourself when you're younger ought to go a long way towards at the very least mitigating the psychological effects of reaching middle age. Common sense stuff, I know, but most of my friends my age must wish they could have a second shot at that part of their youth.

At 40 I'm honestly in the best shape of my life - physically and emotionally - and I can honestly say I wouldn't go back to age 25 for anything.

Biker Dude · 05-14-2008 12:43 PM

2.DOH wrote:
Biker Dude wrote:
Thank GOD! I thought I was hiding it to well.
You might just as well thank Santa.

I had intentionally stayed away from Quarkens thread on God. Not really my thing, and I can't make intelligent arguments either way.

AC · 05-14-2008 12:55 PM

Biker Dude wrote:
I can't make intelligent arguments either way.

WTF does that have to do with anything?

Biker Dude · 05-14-2008 06:38 PM

Lol, good point.

Seabird · 05-14-2008 07:36 PM

zukiphile wrote:
On a bad day I am a cross between Churga...

I thought Churga was the hairy little guy from Land of the Lost. Cause that's how I think of you too.

EDIT: Except without the hair.

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Raoul Duke · 05-15-2008 01:56 AM

Seabird wrote:
zukiphile wrote:
On a bad day I am a cross between Churga...
I thought Churga was the hairy little guy from Land of the Lost. Cause that's how I think of you too.

EDIT: Except without the hair.

2.FOH. · 05-15-2008 02:49 AM

"Marshall, Will & Holly...on a routine expedition, when the greeeaatest earthquake ever knoowwwn....."

Karl Lazlo, Esq. · 05-15-2008 03:06 AM

Did this forum turn into Oprah while I was gone? Jeez, all you guys talking about feelings and all that shit has given me the runs.

Mark, do you ever get that no-so-fresh feeling?

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#1 05-13-2008 09:42 PM

The male midlife crisis. Been there?

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